Check out some schools and audit a couple of classes b4 going. See what you are into: Aikido, Ju Jitsu, Judo? (Grappling) Karate, Kung Fu, Kickboxing, Tae Kwon Do? (Striking/Kicking). Do you want a more traditional style, or something with pure street applicability? Watch the intensity level too. If they are doing stuff that makes you say "Fuck No" then stay away. (I went to a mixed martial arts school where they were bare-knuckling from the get go. I was...non-plussed)

Anyway, I checked out a dozen or so schools b4 settling on mine. It pays to shop around.

And yeah. Doi. You are far from forgotten.